Choices that make a difference in how you see yourself and what you do in the world around you!
Image taken from Em's facebook page.I remember growing up and having lots of friends.
Neighborhood friends, church friends, school friends, camp friends, cheerleading friends, and boyfriends.
Only a few made it to the highly regarded place known as best friends.
I didn't realize at the time that those best friends were so important to the person I would become.....that I needed to be very careful about who I allowed to take on that ranking.
I remember those people ....girls mostly...that I desperately wanted to have as friends. You know the ones.
I learned very quickly (after a bit of heartache, of course) that those friendships were going to be too hard to keep up...too high maintenance.
The friends that were easy....Andrea, Jeanne, Angie, Mary Beth, and Kristie....believed the best in me. The friend, not so easy, but worth the extra effort....Michelle... really cared about me, but I was jealous of her and that was my fault!
I'm starting to see it happen with my daughter. She is making choices about her friends, letting some of them go, because they are too hard to keep up... and adding a few that have the same interests and goals.
Her friends are falling into place. There are neighborhood friends, school friends, volleyball friends, boyfiends....and best friends! I know that they are becoming her focus and what she uses to measure what is worthy and what is important and what is acceptable.
I am hopeful....because that is my nature....that she is the friend that her friends need as their model, just as I am hopeful that her friends will be strong enough to care for her through these very special and impressionable years.
Oh, don't you worry about me letting go so quickly. I am so gonna try my darndest to stay right in the game, but I know that my time to be her friend will be of her choosing....I am okay with that, I think!
She is amazing and a treasure...and I will always be happy to be her Mom.
Plus.....I know the day will come...when I will be one of her very best friends!
Trying to keep it together over here!